Thursday, November 13, 2014

Over The Hill And Loving It

In party stores across the country there is a section of the store that is relegated to black and white tones. The party favors are canes and old timer glasses and the decorations say Happy 40th, you're Over The Hill.

Today is my 40th birthday and I'm not sad. I am not lamenting my life so far because my life statistically is half over for most American males. I'm not thinking it's all downhill from here, I am hoping it is instead. Sometimes the hardest part is getting up that hill.

As a kid, I used to head over to my elementary school where there was a sledding hill. It was really just a drainage ditch, built to handle the runoff for the neighborhood rainwater and it seemed as gigantic as Mount Everest. Kids would fight in the bottom of the bowl like an inverted Thunderdome with a long way to run to get out.

It seemed like it would take forever to climb to the top especially in deep Chicago snow.  At times my legs would get heavy and I felt I couldn't go on. Sometimes I stumbled or lost my footing. Despite the slow, methodical march up the hill what awaited me at the top was the promise of a thrill.

The great thing about getting over the hill is the run down the other side. The cool breeze running past your face, the speed, the elation ; the promise that if you held on long enough you could glide forever farther than anyone else. I'm all about enjoying those moments on the other side.

Yes, I am looking forward to the other side of the hill, to being over it and seeing just what is waiting for me on the other side. Like a water slide with a long climb, the journey there can be tedious but if you don't take the time to enjoy the slide, it will be over before you hit the bottom.

 It's already been a journey up the hill . In my forty years on Earth, I graduated college, became a well respected teacher, have been lucky enough to be married to my best friend for 11 years, have three beautiful kids who I get to stay home with.

I started a blog which lead to four TV appearances and a viral post, became a freelance writer for a website, and founded a dads group in Philadelphia. This year I was elected to a board position at The National At Home Dad Network and even visited The White House!

The best part of all of it is being surrounded by people that love me and that I love back. Life is what you make of it and no number stands in the way of that. So when someone you know finds out it's your 40th Birthday and they try to tell you "You're Over The Hill" just tell them Yes I am. I'm standing at the top of that hill and looking down and I'm ready for the thrill of my life.


  1. I am 45 and can assure you it is a good time here on the other side. You miss certain things but not enough to truly care, they are part of it would be nice but so what if they are gone pile.

    Happy Birthday!

  2. Well said! I decided to be an entrepreneur for the first time in my life at 46. It's daunting to say the least. But my journey, and how I handled the bumps in the road, will be wonderful modeling for my sons. Your approach to being "over the hill," seeking new adventures and embracing the challenges, will teach your kids plenty, too.

  3. Nice, Chris. Great attitude. An uplifting piece. Enjoy the other side.

  4. This is a great post Chris. Congratulations on all your accomplishments (so far). I'm sure there are many more to come. I wish you a happy birthday and continued success!

  5. Happy birthday and welcome to the over 40 club!

  6. Happy Birthday and congratulations on all your achievements! Life is definitely a rollercoaster and I'm sure these next couple decades will be even better than the first 4.